When your child’s time out doesn’t work, you make him sit a little longer.
When you take away one toy and it doesn’t work, you take away another.
The question for parents who spank is, obviously, what to do, if not spanking?
The first step in making change is realizing that children are not learning what you are trying to teach them with spanking.
And the evidence shows that spanking does work, but only if that threat of violence is immediately present and, even then, only because you’re threatening your children – who are dependent on you for their food, shelter and clothing – with physical violence.
We try to learn from what we didn’t grasp, we try to teach what we didn’t know, and we give what we didn’t have.Parents who spank imagine that, because they’re hitting their child with an open palm (or maybe not), they’re not one of those parents, doing published in the journal Neuro Image found that harsh spankings led to permanent brain damage (shrinkage of the gray matter), and mental health disorders such as addiction and depression.Additionally, it’s been shown that children who are spanked – at all – are more aggressive, and often have lower IQs than children who are not, factoring in all other controls.In a heartbreaking experiment that demonstrates just how easy it is to lose control, and just how often people hit their children without realizing it, Spankings were administered for shockingly small infractions: touching a storybook, sucking fingers.And they were given with little warning, at an average of 30 seconds after a child was told to stop a behavior.