Last fall, when my boyfriend accepted a job on the West Coast, I thought managing a newly long-distance relationship would be just that— manageable. Between Face Time and Kayak.com, you can practically be in two places at once.
Besides, I thought, absence doesn't just make the heart grow fonder.
"You get to see each other a couple of weeks later," he said, "and it's like you're seeing each other for the first time." Maybe so. These one-way communications—sort of like messages in a 0 bottle—are less interactive but more satisfying.
So instead of scheduling a phone call, I'd shoot a video (yeah, love makes us do adorkable things) and leave it as a hello in his in-box.
It is a deliberate tactic to try to evade detection by authorities like the AFP, because it leaves little to no digital trail."Certainly we're seeing an alarming trend of Australians that are engaged in this activity," AFP Assistant Commissioner Justine Saunders told 7.30."It's no different to you or I, if we were going on and communicating between each other on Face Time or Skype where you're on a conversation with another person and there's no record of the conversation you're having during that time."Despite that, the AFP is having some success targeting live-streaming abusers.7.30 has been told the inside story of an extraordinary international crime-fighting operation that nabbed multiple live-streaming abusers and rescued children from harm.
By the way, everything you think long-distance couples do with Skype, they do. Nothing makes you feel farther apart than trying to have an intimate experience over a weak Internet signal.Sometimes my dude and I would get so frustrated with buffering video that we'd talk on our more reliable cell phones instead while staring at pilated images of each other on our laptops. ) It's like an episode of Maybe the Internet gods were trying to warn us.Because what this technology really offers is faux intimacy: It's the perception of intimacy with the added hangover that comes with waking up in a queen-size bed next to nothing but your laptop. So I fashioned a plan that kept my boyfriend and me connected but wasn't so all-consuming that it killed our respective lives.I'm also digging Hey Tell, an app that turns your i Phone into a walkie-talkie—like sending a text with your voice. As for the extended high-school-style phone calls, we limited those to a few times a week—you know, so we actually had something new to say—and saved Skype for the really lonely nights.But most importantly, we threw money at airline tickets.